July 2nd, 2008 at 03:57pm
Under Gifts
A More Effective Way
I own a stack of self improvement books ten feet tall. Achievement seminars I’ve attended number in the dozens. I had been trying to improve myself since the second grade when Mrs. H. burst my young bubble. Although I went on to fourteen more years as a star pupil, I never forgot the way she made me feel - not good enough. And through the years whenever a co-worker, boss, or customer questioned my motives or integrity, I felt those same feelings - of being not good enough. So what went wrong with my self improvement stint? I tried dutifully to follow the advice in all those books and workshops, showing me what to do and how to be. But, time after time, I failed.
I have come to learn that I did not fail…what I did do was try to copy the efforts of others and expect results for me. My perceived lack of success came from trying to change myself. And, I was forcing on myself the methods and skills that weren’t me!
Discovering and embracing your own authenticity is the more effective way toward achieving fulfillment in life. Want to be a better boss, more valuable volunteer, finer parent, more creative employee? Be yourself. Know yourself. Uncover and use your inborn strengths and your natural talents. Your authenticity, then, will serve as the foundation for all you are and do. Lead, manage, parent, create, love…all from this base of authenticity. Then, and only then, those enhancement skills- time management or assertiveness skills for example- will work in balance!
Authenticity
Authenticity, I have found, comes from a combination of engaging your talents, loves, and gifts; being autonomous (self-directed); and relating to your external world in your way- not as a copy of someone or something else. In their book Why We Do What We Do (?1996 Penguin USA), Edward Deci and Richard Ryan note that some of the signs that hint we are moving towards authenticity include having a feeling of competence and being effective, feeling free to choose based on wise decisions, and a certain connectedness to the world. (more…)
By rosavn
June 30th, 2008 at 06:29am
Under Gifts
Life is all about choices. And so is the way you communicate. You can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or you can have days of low stress effective communication with your peers.
Now take a moment to learn three ways to have low stress communication.
1. Recognize Positive Intentions
When someone you are talking to is unkind, negative or downright rude it is easy to get annoyed, angry and even aggressive. However this will just makes the situation worse and even faster than you can imagine. There is a better way. Instead look for the positive intention of the person you are talking to. What do I mean?
Ask yourself, what is the positive intention behind this behavior?
If the person you are talking to is angry maybe the positive intention is to express some hurt or frustration. What is important is looking for a positive not to get the correct answer.
When you assume the person has a positive message hidden underneath the negative exterior you will have more compassion and patience and you will not feel so stressed dealing with the individual.
2. Choose Your Own Emotional State
I talk a lot about the importance of managing your emotional state. Why? Because it is an essential life skill.
Unless you are in charge of how you feel your ability to communicate effectively will always be limited and dependent on other people.
When you are in a potentially stressful situation and everyone around you is losing their cool this does not mean you have to join them! You will be able to contribute a lot more if you remain calm and centered.
Staying calm and resourceful is a choice you can make. Unfortunately it is all too easy to be a sheep and simply follow the crowd. Nobody says you have to be a sheep! Instead make a point of keeping yourself in a resourceful state.
3. Step Outside The Situation
Whenever I am in a highly charged situation I will often step outside the situation, in my mind. This helps to defuse the event for me.
You can do this too. Simply imagine that you are at the other end of the room watching the interaction between you and the other person or people. It is as if you are a neutral observer with no emotional involvement in the discussion at hand.
When you do this you will think of ideas to handle the situation better and you will also feel less bothered by the stress of the other people.
This is one technique you need to play with first in easy everyday conversations. Once you get familiar with it you will find it easy to mentally step outside the event while still participating with the people in front of you.
Stress or relaxation which do you prefer?
By rosavn
June 29th, 2008 at 05:30am
Under Gifts
The decision to publish a book is very exciting! It causes the creative juices to flow and the eyes to light up. But wait – before you begin the publishing process, know about the seven most important steps you need to know before publishing your book. Make sure that you take every step into careful consideration so that your road to success is an easy one:
1. Know why you are writing a book. Are you writing your memoirs for the family, are you writing a community cookbook, are you writing a book of regional interest or are you writing a national bestseller? All of these goals are valid, but each goal has different implications for your business plan. Know why you are writing and know that you can create that bestseller if that is your goal.
2. Treat publishing as a business. You are passing beyond the realm of author into the exciting world of publishing. You are not just a writer, you are about to become a publisher who wants to produce a profitable book, and you want to keep the profits for yourself.
3. Write a business plan. Being aware of the business aspect of publishing is not an end in itself, you need to formally write your plan. It does not need to be a fifty page document with every accounting possibility recorded, but it should outline all of the costs that you will encounter from obtaining the necessary funds to knowing the price of mailing a book. The business plan needs to account for future expenses as well as pre-publication expenses.
4. Plan for publicity and marketing. You must plan for the publicity and marketing of your book. You can have the best book in the world, but if no one knows about it, no one will buy it. You don’t want to print books that sit in your garage. You want to print books that will sell, sell, sell!
5. Write about a subject that you know well. Don’t write about something that you can’t talk about without effort. Write about a subject with which you are very familiar and that excites you. Writing the book will establish you as an expert in your field, so choose the topic that causes everyone you know to come to you for advice. The publicity will then be so easy that you will love being the “star”.
6. Know who will buy your book. So many authors think that “everyone” needs and should buy their books. Not so. Perhaps “everyone” needs their books, but not “everyone” will want to buy. Research and know WHO will actually WANT your book and market, market to them. They will buy!
7. Look for non-bookstore markets and do not be afraid of the large discounts. Bookstores are a hugely important market for most authors, but they are far from being the only place to sell books. There are many non traditional markets that buy books in large quantities with no returns. This is a great market – sales made are guaranteed sales not consignment sales. Do not be afraid of the larger discounts when you make those large volume sales. The books you sell are actually SOLD.
Think how much more pleasant a journey is if you know which fork in the road will lead you to smooth driving and which fork in the road will lead you through potholes. Knowing the most effective publishing steps before you print will make your publishing career fun and profitable.
By rosavn
June 28th, 2008 at 07:41am
Under Business+ Gifts
If you are mobile workers within organizations,Symbol MC50 mobile computer is match for you. Yeah this is great Enterprise Digital Assistant that will help you to manage and move information at the point of any business activity in order to increase efficiency and productivity.
They have complete specification! They have so many useful features. The style design, the weight contains voice and data communication capabilities, WLAN access and advanced data capture options and more that make you satisfy and more responsive!
By rosavn
June 28th, 2008 at 03:52am
Under Tips
With the recent surge in the popularity of tanning, many people are flocking to salons to use tanning booths or beds to build and maintain a healthy tan, but some people are still leery of the effects of ultraviolet light, and other people simply cannot afford to pay for tanning sessions.
One of the best alternatives to indoor tanning is sunless tanning, which offers a realistic looking tan from a bottle. These products come in cream, gel, or spray on form, and there are benefits and drawbacks to each. If you choose spray on sunless tanning, a number of things can be done to improve the results. You can have your tan sprayed on at a tanning salon, or you can apply it yourself.
Whichever option you choose, here are a few tips for spray tanning, to make sure the application goes smoothly. (more…)
By rosavn
June 26th, 2008 at 10:45am
Under Beauty
Make your look more stylish with fashionable and cute jewelry and accessories provided in the online store here! Summer fashion jewelry is available, and so are many other accessories in many different categories. Find the adorable and beautiful tahitian pearl in many designs, wish pearl and pearl necklace for your special occasions. Have a more magnificent look with the colorful jewelry products provided in the website. You can shop based on price or the jewelry types.
Many categories of jewelry are available in the online store, such as occasion collection, freshwater pearls necklace, cultured pearls jewelry, sterling silver jewelry, Chinese Akoya pearls, shell jewelry wholesale, coral and turquoise jewelry, gemstone jewelry and jasper, shell pearl jewelry, crystal jewelry and bridal jewelry, colored glazed and zircon, freshwater pearl strands and bead, jewelry fittings and accessories, wish gift jewelry, and the other fashion jewelry. Each category has many types of products which you can see at the website.
By rosavn
June 26th, 2008 at 05:27am
Under Education+ Family
Here you are, The following spelling games can be used by parents to reinforce spelling in children…
SPELLING GAME 1: USE BOARD GAMES, SUCH AS MONOPOLY
Play any game that is normally played with dice with the child — Monopoly, for example. The parent can continue to move her token forward in the normal way by throwing the dice, but the child must orally spell a word to move forward.
To select words that can be used, the parent can use words from the child’s schoolwork that he often misspells. She must make word cards of these words. It is best to use not fewer than 20 words and not more than 30. When playing a board game, the same 20-30 words can be used, or if the child already knows how to spell them, other words can be selected. The parent must thoroughly shuffle the word cards, and then put them in a pile upside down on the table between the two (or more) players.
When it is the child’s turn to play, the parent must take a word from the top of the pile and then say the word aloud. The child must spell the word. If the child spells the word correctly, he may move his token the same number of spaces as there are letters in the word. For example, for a word of seven letters he may move his token forward seven spaces. The word card is then put aside. If, however, he misspells the word, the parent must show the word to the child, and the child must spell the word aloud three times while looking at the word, and then three times without looking at it. Then the word is put at the bottom of the pile, so that it will come up again later. If the child misspells a word, he may also not move his token for that turn. (more…)
By rosavn
June 25th, 2008 at 04:05pm
Under Education
Did you know? That Brazil is one of the biggest sugar producer all over the world, sugar from Brazilian have high quality, that’s why many foods and beverage industry using Brazilian sugar for their raw material. But nowadays Brazilian sugar hard to find because many sugar can used for produce ethanol and other industries.
There are so many Brazilian Sugar Types, there are VHP (very high pol) sugar, also there are ICUMSA 150 or ICUMSA 45, from that site you can get the Brazilian sugar you need, just fill the request form and contact them to make arrangement about the price and shipping time. High quality sugar only can be produced from high quality sugar cane, and the sugar which produced from them is made from best selected sugar cane for the raw materials fresh from the farmers.
So if you have food and beverages industry you can choose Brazilian sugar for your raw materials to get high quality products you can contact them now to request an enquiry, they will shipped your request within 7-15 days depend on the situation.
By rosavn
June 23rd, 2008 at 03:22am
Under Family+ Lifestyle
Flush out the writer in children. Blogging could draw out a young writer and open doors to their future. Consider encouraging your child to start blogging!
Children love having an audience. The instant recognition and approval that comes from a crowd just can’t be beat. Employing blogs to help develop good spelling habits, grammar skills, and develop a love for writing at a young age is an innovative concept that has potential benefits:
1.) Responsibility/Commitment - Daily Posts
Regular updates require children to be disciplined and responsible.
2.) Communication - Increased Communication with Friends and Relatives
Blogging or journaling gives children the opportunity to connect with relatives who might live some distance away, communicating important timely issues. (more…)
By rosavn
June 16th, 2008 at 10:39pm
Under Family+ Gifts
I remember, June was your birthday. Just want to say for you my lovely brother, Happy Birthday!! In this moment the statistics show that the people who have the most live the longest, because time itself is like a spiral, something special happens on your birthday each year.
Well, May you can gain your end in this time. I was believed you can reach it. It’s not a matter about a chance, but it’s a matter of your choice brother! The destiny is not a matter to be waiting for, but it’s a matter to be achieved! Just Go On! I pray for your success Fiddunya wal Akhiroh!!
Once more! – B`day Testi
By rosavn
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